What would happen if just today you let go of the tight grip you keep on your life?
Would the world fall apart?
Would YOUR world fall apart?
What if you didn’t care about what your children ate, the activities they did, if your husband packed his lunch or even if he was going to be home late, again?
Will the sun still come up tomorrow? Will your family still be OK?
What if just for today you didn’t care what other people thought and you just did your own thing without worry or societal pressures?
Would all that authenticity make you shine brighter?
What if all those balls you’re juggling in the air just fell one-by-one onto the ground and shattered on the floor?
Would you be upset or would you be relieved?
How would it feel to just be without trying to get to the next best thing that you simply must achieve? That next blog post? That next level of management? That next big screen TV? The bigger car?
Would everything you have right now, this very second, be enough?
What if you just stopped caring so damn much about life’s minutiae and started paying attention to all the beauty that surrounds you instead? Who cares if you really say no to volunteering, just this once? Who cares if you really say yes to skipping the latest social function, just this once?
Especially if it means more time to yourself. Or more time with your family?
The idea of not needing to be responsible for every. little. stinking. thing is WONDERful.
But the idea of losing that tight grip that I have on my children’s day is even more appealing. Are they old enough to start learning valuable mistakes? Are they old enough to pull away from me just a bit? Are they old enough to start doing more things on their own?
How about you? What could you care less about today? Beds not getting made? An unkept house? Piles of laundry? Children’s squabbling in the other room? If they ate iced pop tarts over the new box of organic shredded wheat? If their clothes match? Finding the perfect photo to share on your blog or on Facebook or to send across the miles?
That everything is perfectly perfect?
WRITING PROMPT ONE: Write a list of all the things you have to do today. I mean truly have to do today. Now, circle only the ones that are life or death — meaning they have to be done today or someone gets hurt. What’s left?
WRITING PROMPT TWO: Is there anything in your life that you’d like to let go of … maybe a long-held belief, an insecurity, a personality trait? Perhaps it’s a constant worry. Or a fear that just won’t let you relax. What have you done to let go of it? What could you do to try harder to let go of it?
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You begged for help today and no one answered.
The children woke up a half hour too early and will be a mess by 9 a.m..
Milk was spilled all over the counter and the clean clothes.
She had another tantrum over nothing. Again.
He only wants to watch TV and play video games.
The twins are fighting again.
The house is a total wreck because that’s the kind of day/week it has been.
You need more sleep.
You need quiet time and cannot get it.
You couldn’t find time to exercise, again.
You don’t have the money to pay the bills.
You just lost your job.
Your child failed another test.
Your child had a fight with a friend.
Your child is being bullied.
Your child is the bully.
You haven’t talked to an adult in days.
You have too much to do and no nap time to do it.
You work all day and come home to housework all night.
You have dreams and you cannot — not for the life of you — reach them.
The babies are growing up faster than you ever dreamed would happen.
We’re in this together. This is your village. This is where we support each other. This is where you are reminded what peace feels like. This is where you know it’s OK to do less, to be imperfect. This is your place to find your silly side again. This is the place where we remind each other to stop and play. This is the place to feel inspired, to say yes and embrace the wonders of the world.
“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace”.
Every week, I choose a different mindful topic to focus on as a woman, a parent and a creative soul.
This week’s intention is peace. But every week it should be peace, shouldn’t it?
In his book, “Peace is Every Step,” Thich Nhat Hanh writes that “Anger is an unpleasant feeling.”
“It is like a blazing flame that burns up our self-control and causes us to say and do things that we regret later.”
He goes on a bit later in that same paragraph to say, “A mind without anger is cool, fresh and sane. The absense of anger is the basis of real happiness, the basis of love and compassion.”
May you have peace of mind this week. May you have peace in the heart. May you have peace with what is and what isn’t and what may never be.
Peace for what we have and peace for what we will never in a million years find.
May you have peace when angry feelings rise to the top and want to burst out of you.
May you have peace when the noise level is so loud you can’t hear youself think.
May you also have a minute’s peace.
Peace for others who struggle.
Peace between siblings. Peace in the family.
Peace in knowing that right here, right now is perfect just the way it is.
Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you. John De Paola
Peace comes from within.
And may you find it everywhere you look this week.
Even in the middle of chaos. Even in the middle of an argument. Even when you know you are right but lose the argument anyway. Even in the car stuck behind a slow driver, a bad driver. Even when you watch the news and you hear things you do not like, even when you want to plug your ears at the sounds of it all.
Practicing peace is simple. It is a matter of closing your eyes, breathing deep and uttering these words:
I am peace.
I am peace.
You can read about more weekly intentions HERE.